"This determines your capacity to love"

To show the true depth of feeling

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And to help you see clearly and feel patiently,
~

I have these words to share with you..

~:~ ~:~ ~:~


Everything comes at a price. All knowledge and the
process of learning comes with risk and regret but with
overall bounty nevertheless. It will take time and
getting used to but it helps to believe in someone.


You will receive the gifts of life in so many ways, and in
your search you will come to the pathway of love and
see the many ways to discover its potential and
qualities.


You will be hurt and hurt others trying to discover its
meaning, why you need it in your life and to whom you
will give it to. But in time, it will find you. Love finds a
way just as life does.


And when you see it and feel it, it will seem so pure and
joyous. But everything comes with a challenge or
obstacle for you to overcome. If this was not there then
you would have nothing to build with. 


The challenges are here for you to grow and evolve with
someone and also for you to test the depth of your capacity.
 They will continue to test the view you have set for yourself.
 Its also a matter of giving up that outlook you think you
have and learning to truly "see," into your self and another.


I think we all struggle with detachment, letting go of past
afflictions which stirs up emotions when someone sees you.
You will find someone that is amazing and perfect but at the
 same time they will seem impossible to work with. However
 you must stay on the boat, feel the energy that brought the
union together in the first place. Remember the connection..


The essence of it, what was felt in the beginning..
And for all there will be a time when it becomes disengaged.
Everything in life, in nature, and even with technology does
this as a way of refreshing itself. It’s a healthy process to give
 space, just never forget the source of things.


If you are not understanding with them then you are
growing apart from them. You are not becoming one,
but remaining in confliction with your self.


In your longing and passion for life, you must study
for these tests, they are doorways to lasting bliss
and delight for years to come and many personal
awakenings above all, but it all takes lots of effort
discerning ego and self.

You must find the soul in each other. You will battle many
things within yourself but it must be a struggle or it wouldn’t
 be worth sharing your life and all its complexities. There
 would be no goal if you do not share/accept each others
imperfections.


This involves many things. You must share their
limitations, their families, their problems, their insecurities,
their physical ailments, whatever grief they may have in every
instance if needed, and if you do not nurture and encourage
the other with unconditional love then you are not cultivating
that lasting vision you have had of a true union. There may
come a time where you have to make a choice or you may also
have to make a sacrifice. Those that choose to make a
sacrifice will realize the meaning of compassion and enduring
 love if it is for the benefit of a true union, whereas those that
 think only of themselves are free to make a choice.


Throughout your twenties you must discover who you are,
in your thirties you may still be doing this. You also may be
coming to a point where you are simply trying to make peace
with yourself, coming to terms with the results of life, and
trying to understand how things turned out for you. Its
never too late, keep trying.


Some will develop expectations as a way to steer their
future and stay in control, but that’s all it is ~
controlling. I’ve been there. Expectations are
premeditated resentment.


Many can be stuck on themselves for years.. But when
that opportunity comes to be free from it, take it. My main
point in sharing this is that everything comes 
at a price, with a risk you see.. I have risked myself with
 others in my path to love. It did not work out this way
because they were not able to make a sacrifice, they were not
able to let go. As a result, I was in the same predicament.
Because you see, problems double with the other if you do
not communicate it or express it, or release it. You will
continue to suffer from it and mirror it with anyone you try to
 be with. You can’t just be with people to make it go away.
you have to release yourself from the constraints of ego
but believe in yourself, and then, give all that you are to
what you long for ~ the simplicity of companionship.

~:~ ~:~ ~:~

Thank you,

for your

listening.

"In what capacity is working on yourself or your
marriage a bad thing? What marriage isn't a journey?
... Nobody's perfect ... We all have our own set of
problems.” ~ Reese Witherspoon

The End

Images taken around Denver
and Cheeseman Park
Summer 2010